I was raised in the UK and have been living in Toronto, Canada since 1999. I’ve been married since 2000 and have a teenage son and a tween daughter. I have been a client/patient in therapy and counselling (individual, couples and group), I am familiar with the 12-step process.
For much of my adult life I’ve been invested in a fantasy of what long-term relationship should be (easy, comfortable and sexy all the time, right?). I’d also perfected a damaging and compulsive pattern of coping when the fantasy got shaky (as it always does). It took a massive and painful upheaval to fully recognise this pattern and begin to address the emotional wounds, entitlement and other blind spots driving my behaviour.
My deep-dive into relational work began over 10 years ago with a book on manhood given to me by my brother. The gift came at a time when I was deeply lost about my role as husband, father to my young son, and as a man in the world. That book led to an immersion in the ManKind Project, participating in men’s groups, staffing on the retreats and serving on the board. Learning to be vulnerable around men, learning to identify and begin to feel my emotions, and supporting men in their own development, became a mission for me. I’m now the co-founder/facilitator of the Evryman Toronto men’s group.
I found Jayson’s work when I most needed to develop awareness of my wounds and relationship patterns and get back into integrity with myself and those I care the most about. My deepening understanding of Relationship as a Path – how our closest relationships show us where in ourselves we need to explore, understand, heal and grow – has been revelatory. Studying with Jayson since 2013 (including the courses Relationship As A Path, Indestructible Partnerships/Embracing Conflict, and being a member of Roots and Roots VIP communities), and becoming a student of The Relationship School has put me on an amazing, no-nonsense path towards responsibility and awareness.
I don’t see my path as complete, nor do I imagine it ever will be. However, I know my journey has provided deeper understanding and connection with those I love. The sense of possibility I now feel is liberating. My beautiful wife and children, my family and friends deserve my best.