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If you’re here I’m guessing you’re experiencing frustration, pain or confusion in a current or recent relationship.

Perhaps you’re full of blame, or feeling blamed, or wondering what went so wrong, or looping in seemingly endless conflict. Are you experiencing the bitter ending of a relationship? Or the seemingly relentless challenges of being in relationship? Are you back in the dating game and wondering how to do it differently this time?

And you’re curious about coaching or some other kind of relationship support.

A simple truth is that many of us bought into the ‘find the one’, ‘happily ever after’ relationship fantasy. It’s no surprise and you’re not alone, it’s sold to us over and over from early childhood.

Maybe deep down you sense it must be possible to find balance and meaning in relationship and the challenges that come with it.

A simple concept but a challenging journey

With the right guidance, tools and perspective, relationship is a path to understanding and healing ourselves. And what we learn about ourselves can lead to a more connected, more fulfilling relationships with those we care about. This is where I can help you.

 
 
Matt brings a natural ease to every coaching session we’ve had. He listens with innate ability and provides profoundly insightful feedback. Through my time with him, I can confidently say that I have watched myself grow and change for the better.

What I appreciate most about my coaching relationship with Matt is the safe space he creates - I can bring my whole self to every session without worrying that I’m not enough or too much!

Thank you, Matt, for your gentle manner and infinite understanding.
— Rachel, Texas USA
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As your relationship coach I will walk that path with you. I will:

  • Help you identify patterns of behaviour that no longer serve you

  • Explore with you what’s getting in the way of a fulfilling relationship

  • Provide you with tools to help you communicate more effectively (help you be heard!)

  • Help you identify your relationship needs and communicate them

  • Support you in expressing yourself more fully

  • Help you identify, explore and move past limiting beliefs and fantasies

  • Help you understand your vulnerability and triggers

  • Teach you stay more present when you’re triggered

  • Teach you to navigate conflict

  • Help you see your blindspots (we all have them)

The approach I offer is one of challenge and support. The work can be confronting - and this is why a relationship coach can help you stay on the path. The reward is an empowered approach that will help you co-create a safe and deeply fulfilling relationship.

 
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What Is a Relationship Coach?


A fitness, career or business coach will work with you to identify and understand your vision, hold that vision for you and provide you with tools, tweaks, perspective, motivation and encouragement to move you towards your goal. As your relationship coach I will work with you to achieve your relationship goals.

What Isn’t a Relationship Coach?

A relationship coach isn’t a therapist or counselor (although a session can contain elements of both), and is not a trauma specialist. In the same way a fitness coach might recommend you see a doctor, physiotherapist or another type of specialist to address specific issues, I might recommend you see a specialist to support you in a particular area.

Do you see see Couples and Individuals?

Currently, my training is focused on working with individuals and this is how I can support you most effectively. I am anticipating supporting couples in the near future.

How Does the Coaching Session Work?

A session is usually an hour long. I work via Zoom, a video conferencing platform similar to Skype (but more stable). If you’re based in Toronto, or passing through, there may be options to meet in person.

If you’re skeptical about coaching online, I was too. How is it possible to connect in a meaningful and effective way via a screen? I now know without a doubt, from extensive experience, that online coaching works. And it means you can receive coaching from the comfort of your home, your work, or anywhere in the world where there’s wifi.

To see for yourself book a complimentary session.

Matt helped me to see and educate myself on my anxious attachment style - I was trying too hard in relationship to my detriment. He taught me to share impact of my partner’s actions and supported me through my decision to break up. I’ve since been dating again and am happy in a brand new relationship.
— Anna, York UK

Booking a Session, and Fees

I offer a FREE 30-minute Session - consider it a two-way interview. Meet me, ask questions, get a sense of the online coaching experience, give me a sense of what you want to work on, and get a sense of how I work and if it will be effective for you.

I do offer single coaching sessions as well as coaching packages. Packages are preferred as committing to a number of sessions enables a significantly more effective experience where we can consistently explore, deepen and advance towards your goals.

Sessions are generally one hour, but can be extended by 30 mins to 1 hour, pending my availability.

Sessions are paid in advance. Prices are in Canadian dollars (which is great if you’re in the US!)

Click on a link below for the package you want to buy. Once I’ve received confirmation of your purchase I’ll send you the calendar link to book.


FREE 30 minute consultation

1 x 60 minute session: $150 (+ tax)

4 x 60 minute session: $540 ($600 value) (+ tax)

6 x 60 minute session: $750 ($900 value) (+ tax)

20 minute issue-buster: $50 (for when shit blows up - for existing clients only) (+ tax)


If finances are an issue please contact me to discuss.

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Photo by NeONBRAND on Unsplash

 

About My Training

I am a certified Level 1 Relationship Coach, trained by Jayson Gaddis at the Relationship School. Jayson is a veteran relationship coach, a qualified psychotherapist and has almost two decades of experience working with the best relationship teachers and methods.

The training blends interpersonal neurobiology, psychotherapy and results-based coaching to help understand your complex past and how it can inform, and undermine, your present reality and partnerships. The training equips me to facilitate your self-awareness and transformation in a mindful, heart-centred way.

I have training in conflict resolution and facilitation, I was a longtime participant in men’s groups with ManKind Project Canada, and I am the co-founder/facilitator of the Evryman Toronto men’s group.

Find out more about my training here, and Jayson’s qualifications and experience here.

 
 

My Story

I was raised in the UK and have been living in Toronto, Canada since 1999. I’ve been married since 2000 and have a teenage son and a tween daughter. I have been a client/patient in therapy and counselling (individual, couples and group), I am familiar with the 12-step process.

For much of my adult life I’ve been invested in a fantasy of what long-term relationship should be (easy, comfortable and sexy all the time, right?). I’d also perfected a damaging and compulsive pattern of coping when the fantasy got shaky (as it always does). It took a massive and painful upheaval to fully recognise this pattern and begin to address the emotional wounds, entitlement and other blind spots driving my behaviour.

My deep-dive into relational work began over 10 years ago with a book on manhood given to me by my brother. The gift came at a time when I was deeply lost about my role as husband, father to my young son, and as a man in the world. That book led to an immersion in the ManKind Project, participating in men’s groups, staffing on the retreats and serving on the board. Learning to be vulnerable around men, learning to identify and begin to feel my emotions, and supporting men in their own development, became a mission for me. I’m now the co-founder/facilitator of the Evryman Toronto men’s group.

I found Jayson’s work when I most needed to develop awareness of my wounds and relationship patterns and get back into integrity with myself and those I care the most about. My deepening understanding of Relationship as a Path – how our closest relationships show us where in ourselves we need to explore, understand, heal and grow – has been revelatory. Studying with Jayson since 2013 (including the courses Relationship As A Path, Indestructible Partnerships/Embracing Conflict, and being a member of Roots and Roots VIP communities), and becoming a student of The Relationship School has put me on an amazing, no-nonsense path towards responsibility and awareness.

I don’t see my path as complete, nor do I imagine it ever will be. However, I know my journey has provided deeper understanding and connection with those I love. The sense of possibility I now feel is liberating. My beautiful wife and children, my family and friends deserve my best.

Being a relationship coach aligns with my deep calling to support you on your path in fulfilling your goals for yourself and your relationships.

 
 
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